Day 1 - get reacquiainted
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Welcome to day 1 on this journey back to you. When I first thought of this process, I thought of it as falling back in love with yourself. And when I thought of it that way, I saw it like dating or any other romantic relationship. I realized the journey you go on with your significant other is the same type of journey you go on when you reconnect with who you are and fall back in love with yourself.
Why this step matters (0:42)
Just like in any other relationship, the very first step is to get acquainted, or in our case to get reacquainted.
This is so important because as you become a mom life starts to pile up, you take on more responsibilities, you have more people come under your care, and it's easy to find yourself trying to make everyone else happy and disconnecting with what lights you up.
Before you know it you're saying things like, "Well, my husband loves this band and I really like them too" or "My kids LOVE to go to the beach on vacation and we make such great memories, I love it too!"
Then all of a sudden you're playing everyone's favorites so much in your mind that it defaults as yours when there are other things that would truly light you up.
So, before you can take your relationship further, you need to reconnect with those things.
THE first step - (2:08)
Grab a piece of paper, or that pretty journal, and let's begin.
The first step is to reconnect.
I'll begin by asking a few questions you can ask yourself to help get you started, and then you can take it from there.
This is a time where you need to be really honest with yourself. Let go of the shoulds, expectations, buts, etc. If you would love to do it, you need to write it down.
The scene from runaway bride - (2:54)
I'm not sure if you're familiar with the movie, Runaway Bride, but there is one scene in the movie that I love.
(warning: do not hold me to the accuracy of this description haha)
To give some backstory, throughout the movie Richard Gere 's character will ask Julia Robert's character what is her favorite kind of way to eat eggs. She always defaults to whatever kind of egg her current love interest likes.
She finally is no longer in a relationship and Richard Gere visits her house. On the counter are various plates of eggs all prepared differently and he asks her, what are you doing? She replies that she is going to find out what kind of eggs are her favorite.
That is in essence what we are going to do now.
Questions - (3:57)
Let's start with the obvious question, what is your favorite way to have your eggs prepared? What is your favorite color? What's your favorite kind of music? What is your favorite movie genre? If you could go anywhere on vacation, where would you go? If you could live anywhere, where would you live? What is your favorite food? If you could spend a whole day alone, what would you do? What have you always wanted to do, or be?
To help you think through the questions - (4:36)
Think back to when you were a little girl or in high school. What were the things that lit you up back then, that maybe you've buried as you've gotten older and took on more adult responsibilities?
As you think back on that girl, let her inspire you as you dig into these questions.
Conclusion - (5:06)
The questions I've presented to you today are just some examples. Feel free to use them, don't use them, or create your own. The point of this step is to get reacquainted with who you are and what you love, no shoulds, no expectations, no buts allowed.